Sending My Child to College: A Mom’s Packing List, Coordination Tips, and All the Emotions

I always knew this day would come, but somehow, it still snuck up on me.

Packing my son for college has been one of the most bittersweet experiences of my life. As we zipped open duffel bags and taped together moving boxes, I found myself swinging between excitement, pride, and a deep, aching sadness. And now I am on the cusp of sending a second child to college… My little girl — my sidekick, my everyday companion — is getting ready to start her next chapter without me right by her side.

If you’re a parent preparing to send your child off to school, I hope sharing our experience helps you feel a little less alone — and a little more prepared.

The College Packing List: What We Packed

There are hundreds of "college packing lists" online, but every family (and every student) is a little different. Here's what made the cut for us:

Bedding and Comfort

• Twin XL sheet sets (2)

• Comforter and cozy blanket

• Mattress protector and topper

• Pillows (regular + decorative)

• Bedside caddy for easy access to phone and glasses

Storage and Organization

• Under-bed storage bins

• Hanging shelves for closet

• Stackable drawers

• Laundry basket and detergent pods

• Desk organizer

Toiletries and Health

• Shower caddy and flip-flops

• Towels and washcloths (2-3 sets)

• First-aid kit (band-aids, Tylenol, cold medicine)

• Personal hygiene supplies

Electronics

• Laptop and charger

• Extension cords and surge protectors

• Desk lamp

• Headphones

• Small fan (if not provided)

School Supplies

• Notebooks, pens, highlighters

• Backpack

• Planner or calendar

Kitchen Basics

• Mini fridge (check with roommate first!)

• Microwave (if allowed)

• Coffee maker or electric kettle

• Reusable water bottle and travel mug

• Simple dishware: a few plates, bowls, utensils

Clothing and Personal Items

• Everyday clothes (weather-appropriate)

• Formal outfit (for events or interviews)

• Workout clothes

• Warm coat and boots

• Umbrella

• Photos from home, posters, string lights

What We Coordinated with the Roommate’s Family

One of the smartest moves we made was reaching out to the future roommate’s family early. It saved us time, money, and major headaches on move-in day.

Here’s what we coordinated:

• Big appliances: These are available as rentals on many campuses, which is super convenient!

• Rug: Either split the cost of a cute area rug or bring a spare from home.

• Curtains and decor: We shared color schemes and design ideas so the room would feel cohesive but still show each student's personality.

• Cleaning supplies: We decided to each bring some basics (they brought a broom, we packed a lightweight vacuum).

We kept the communication simple and upbeat, focusing on collaboration — not competition. After all, it’s the kids who have to live together!

The Emotional Rollercoaster

The logistics were overwhelming at times, but the emotional side of things was even harder.

Packing wasn’t just about folding T-shirts and labeling bins — it was about preparing to let go.

There were moments I found myself lingering in their empty room, holding a favorite sweatshirt and remembering them as a giggling toddler. I cried at the strangest times — buying twin XL sheets, loading up the car, even at Target in the school supply aisle.

But there was also pride. So much pride.

Watching them step into this next season of life, with all its challenges and adventures ahead, it makes my heart swell with hope. The kids are set — even if we are not entirely prepared to let them go.

Final Thoughts

If you’re getting ready to pack up your child for college, know this: it’s okay to feel everything all at once. Sadness, excitement, worry, joy — it’s all part of the process.

Lean into the practical tasks when the emotions get overwhelming. Make lists, check off boxes, stay busy — but also give yourself time to grieve the changing season.

And when it’s time to drive away from campus after move-in day, know that you’ve done your job. Your child is off chasing dreams you helped build from the very beginning.

Deep breath, mama.
You’ve got this.